Through Hypnotism, Confidence and Self Esteem Can Be Improved

Hypnosis and hypnotism can be used to help to remove a lot of the negative beliefs you have about yourself, so that you can focus on the positive and begin to develop new and exciting beliefs, on the road to creating the new you.

Hypnotism is a way of moving to a deeply relaxed state where you are able to access your sub-conscious mind, where your innermost thoughts are stored. When you access your sub-conscious mind, you can replace the negative thought patterns you have stored there with positive ones through hypnotic suggestion. Whilst in a hypnotic state, all your barriers fall away and the deepest parts of your subconscious mind can be entered by the hypnotist. Any social anxieties or your natural instinct to avoid vulnerability fade away giving someone complete access to the real you.

Your subconscious mind is the best part of the brain to retrain because it is easier to shape and change through planting alternative hypnotic suggestion. When you are alert and awake you are instinctively going to oppress these suggestions even though you would naturally think that because you want to change the way you feel about yourself and your situation, you would be open to that change.

So through hypnotism, confidence in yourself and your situation will improve because it was always there anyway. You were born with confidence and generally it's just life experiences and "knocks" that lower our levels of confidence and self esteem. So through hypnotism, confidence can be restored.

If you think about it, society and life in general is all about addressing what's going wrong and highlighting when people are doing things wrong. We don't really talk or read about things going well. Just look at our newspapers or at the agenda at most departmental meetings in the workplace, or how a mother talks to her children. Seldom are they accentuating what's gone right and congratulating everyone for doing a good job. So from almost arriving in this world, we all tend to accentuate the negative, rather than the positive.

Through hypnotism, we can start to regain our confidence and self esteem, by reinforcing the positive things about ourselves and in our lives, and by helping us to erase all those negative messages you've had through life.

As a result of hypnotism, you will be more relaxed in every situation of your life, and you will have a more positive attitude toward life. The way you talk to yourself and think about yourself will be different. Instead of being filled with doubt and negative beliefs, you will be able to walk taller with a much greater confidence and improved attitude about yourself. Your self esteem will grow and you will be well on the path to creating the person you want to be.

By Paul Heaton  Source: GoArticle

The Three Magic Words that Create Great Conversations

We all know great conversations when we find ourselves in one.  We find an area of common interest with another human being and the dialogue just flows.  But these moments don’t come along as often as we like.  With a stranger, we don’t know where to begin.  And in a long-term relationship, we may feel like we’ve exhausted the subjects of common interest, and the dialogue becomes more mundane.

I’ve been thinking about how I can improve my own conversational skills and I think I’ve found one technique that works pretty well and can be summed up in 3 simple words: “Tell me more.”

This technique forces you to listen to another person with a state of curiosity and try to find the thread of the conversation that they want to have.  Anything that another person says is an opening on a topic that they want to talk about.  And even if the topic is not in an area of mutual passion, it gives you something to build on.  By giving the person more space to share their thoughts about any subject they’ve broached, you open up more opportunities to find areas of mutual interest.

Some psychologists, such as Shelly Gable and Harry Reis, have described a version of this they call “active constructive responding” or “ACR.”  In ACR, you respond to good news by sharing in the excitement of the other person and helping them to relive the moment by asking to share more details.  Sportscasters do this all the time when they interview an athlete after an important match (e.g., “What was going through your mind when you scored the winning goal?”)

Another psychologist, David Grove, developed a technique (used primarily in psychotherapy and coaching) of asking open-ended questions to help someone get clearer about their own experience.  The technique is called “Clean Language” because it is intended to help the person go deeper into their own understanding without being distorted or swayed by the response of the listener.

Penny Tompkins and James Lawley, two authors that have written about Clean Language, describe the goal of Clean Language by saying, “the therapist aims to ask the question the client’s information wants to be asked.” Anything a person shares can give a clue as to where the conversation needs to go.

“Tell me more” does not in any way encapsulate the more complex models of ACR and Clean Language, so I’d encourage you to do some more digging to learn more about them.  But conceptually, “tell me more” is a simpler way of thinking about some of these response strategies that is easy to remember and apply.

You don’t have to use the exact phrase, “Tell me more.”  You can, of course, but I would not recommend repeating “tell me more” like a robot to everything your conversation partner says (a sure way to kill the conversation.)  Here are some creative example questions to keep the conversation going by capturing the spirit of “tell me more”:

“how did that make you feel?”

“what was that like?”

“what was the best part?”

“how did that happen?” or “what led up to that?”

“now what?” or “what happens next?”

“what else can you tell me?”

By allowing your partner to expand on the areas they’ve shown an interest in, you get to know them better and find more opportunities for greater connection.

There is one caveat to this technique: This may not work when someone is sharing bad news.  People might not want to spend more time thinking and talking about the bad things that have happened to them, so simply feeling heard is sometimes all we can do (think of how you might translate the phrase “I see you” from the movie Avatar.)

But if your conversation partner is not sharing bad news, try this technique and let me know how it works.  It doesn’t matter if it’s a stranger on an elevator, a close friend or relative, or your spouse coming home from a day at work.  Whatever they share with you, look them in the eye, smile, and say, “tell me more.”  You might be surprised at what happens.

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by Jeremy McCarthy

10 Inspirational Quotes To Help Improve Yourself

It might take a little coffee or probably a few rounds of beer or any other booze you could get your hands on when it comes to relaxing after a hard day's work. Well, yeah I'm guilty about that one as well, unless I'm caught dead wearing a lampshade over my head after a few rounds of vodka… half-naked! Okay, bad example and I apologize to everyone reading this after getting nightmares about me in that state of drunken stupor.

Just don't ask how it happened, please.

But what's really interesting is that how do people go through the usual part of life when faced with vein-popping stress? I mean, the new age thing like Zen or yoga is one of the good things and it actually works. Is there room for the intellectual side of people who can actually smell the roses-in-a-can while on the move? It kind of had me thinking that there really must be something in this 'mind-over-matter' thing.

Humor is indeed the best medicine there is wherever you are. I mean anyone can pay good money to listen to a comedian just to make you wet your pants after laughing so hard. Despite of what's been happening, and to those who have gone though the ordeal, it's better to just laugh while facing the troubles with a clear mind than anger with a clouded vision.

One of my favorite celebrities of all time may has to be Woody Allen. Now this is one guy who gives you the in-your-face bluntness that he pulls out with gusto, even without even trying. You can talk just about anything with a man, and he's bound to mock the subject and you'll end up laughing rather than being upset about it.

Woody Allen has this to say:

1. "Money is better than poverty, if only for financial reasons."

It sounds good to me, I mean the practicality of all things does involve money but it doesn't have to take an arm and a leg to get it.

2. "I believe there is something out there watching us. Unfortunately, it's the government."

Nuff said.

3. "There are worse things in life than death. Have you ever spent an evening with an insurance salesman?"

This happens to be one of the classic ones. I mean the issue about life's little problems isn't all that bad, until 'he' shows up.

Sure, relationships can get complicated, or does have its complications that probably any author about relationships is bound to discover it soon. We follow what our heart desires, unless you're talking about the heart as in the heart that pump blood throughout your body.

4. "Love is the answer, but while you're waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty interesting questions."

And if you want more, just keep on asking!

5. "A fast word about oral contraception. I asked a girl to go to bed with me, she said 'no'."

It sounds, 'practical', I think.

And when it comes to everyday life, he really knows how to make the best out of every possible scenario, and it doesn't involve a lawsuit if he strikes a nerve.

6. "Basically my wife was immature. I'd be at home in the bath and she'd come in and sink my boats."

I never had a boat in my bathtub before. Just staring at it while soaking in hot water makes me seasick already.

7. "I am not afraid of death, I just don't want to be there when it happens."

If it rains, it pours.

8. "I am thankful for laughter, except when milk comes out of my nose."

It could get worse when you're guzzling on beer… or mouthwash, and it happened to me once!

9. "If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans."

At least he doesn't smite us with lightning, and I'm thankful for that.

And despite of what may happen to all of us in the next ten, twenty, or even thirty years, I guess we all have to see things in a different kind of light and not just perspective. I can't seem to imagine life without any piece of wisdom that could guide us. Whether we're religious or not, it takes more courage to accept your fears and learn how to deal with them is all that matters when it comes to even just getting along.

And to sum things up, here is the last nugget of wisdom to go by… however, whenever, and wherever we may be.

10. "The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don't have."

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How to Communicate Better with Body Language Secrets

"I don't let my mouth say nothin' my head can't stand."
Louis ArmstrongSince the 1970's, learning how to communicate better has had a lot to do with understanding body language.

Julius Fast wrote a book entitled, Body Language in 1970. He talked about a new science called Kinesics. It opened the way to more studies and books on the subjects. Today, the term Body Language is very common and understood as an important element of communication.

In fact, experts in the field of communication suggest that there is a rule that says that 7% of the meaning of what a person is saying comes from their words.

Interestingly, 38% is based on the tone of their voice. 55% of the meaning comes from the body language of the person that is speaking. This rule comes from research that was published in the late 1960's.

Some now think that the percentages from this research might be slightly different. Nevertheless, the bottom line is still the same. If you don't know the basics of body language, you are missing a valuable tool for learning how to communicate better. We speak body language on a subliminal level, without actually realizing that we are communicating through body talk.

1. Face

The most expressive part of your body is your face. When you enter a room if you feel nervous, your expression might make you look aloof or unfriendly.

Smiling at the room is a sure-fire way to remove anyone's doubts about your approachability. Smiling makes us look warm, open and confident.

2. Eyes

They say the eyes are the windows to the soul. They certainly give people clues about what we are feeling.

A direct gaze towards someone can show interest- direct staring on the other hand can mean an intense dislike. Very little eye contact can show that you are shy.

3. Hands

Have you ever watched someone's hand gestures when they are talking? Open hand gestures tend to make a person appear open and honest. Bringing hands together to a point can accent the point you are making.

Wringing your hands or excessively moving your fingers and hands will give away nervousness. It can even make someone look dishonest- are they trying to hide something?

4. Posture

If you lean towards someone you are showing an interest in that person. If we are feeling low in confidence, we tend to slouch our shoulders and look down.

Men and women use different body language. For instance, women will stand close to each other, hold eye contact with the person they are talking to and use gestures.

Men make little effort to maintain eye contact and don't rely on the use of gestures to communicate. Men and women can learn how to communicate better by observing the differences in their use of body language.